Do you know when you’re procrastinating? Is a little voice inside you saying just get the thing done already?
Our minds are geared towards avoiding what we perceive as painful, making it challenging to rouse energy to start on the path of tackling a project that feels difficult. Making matters worse, we can be so hard on ourselves for not starting that it propels us into shame, guilt, and mental-flagellation.
Be kind to yourself. Understand that avoidance has nothing to do with whether you’re a good person. Stop saying you’re lazy, awful, or un-disciplined. None of this self-talk will help you stop procrastinating; it will just make it worse and keep you on a spinning wheel.
Forgive yourself. If you delay a task and you feel bad about it, don’t beat yourself up with resentment. Get in the habit of extreme self-compassion and allow the next time to be a fresh start.
Examine your emotions. Dive in to the feelings that the task brings up in you. There’s a reason you’re avoiding it, so peel back the layers. What does it bring up that you might be evading? Write the thoughts down and get to the root of what makes the task seem like such a mountain for you.
Consider how you feel about your ‘future self.’ Some people are better at imagining who they will be after they finish a goal than others. If you see your future self as more of a stranger, who isn’t a part of who you are now, it will be difficult to believe that you can approach jobs in the present. Psychologist Dr. Hal Hershfield has done studies on this, which may be worth looking in to.
Understand that you’re not going to feel like starting. Many tasks don’t contain immediate gratification or pleasurable pay-off. Small steps are key. Don’t overwhelm yourself with big details. Set up fun reminders to boost your positivity about the goal and break it into very small bit-size pieces. When you accomplish a piece, give yourself a reward! Teach your brain it’s okay to be scared, or fearful of the task, but it won’t kill you. Resistance and discomfort are normal but starting is in your best interest and in service of your wellbeing.
Stay focused. If you’ve set aside time to fulfill a piece of your task, eliminate distractions. Write down your common triggers so when they pop up you’ll see them for what they are. When you finish a part of the task, look at the next step towards your goal and plan for when you will do it.
All in all, when you delve into your habits of procrastination and figure out the why’s and the how’s of your behavior, you can begin to apply strategies that feel really good to you! Huzzah!
Share your experience with procrastination in the comments.
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Keeping up with accumulated clutter is one of the main areas of challenge during this pandemic. With so many people at home for longer periods of time, getting a handle on this is so important!
Find a basket, box, or bag that is portable enough to carry easily.
Pick one room and do a clutter sweep! For example you can start with your living room.
Everything that's in the wrong place or needs to be thrown away should go in. Make sure you look around all the nooks & crannies that can collect clutter such as: under and around coffee and side tables, under the sofa and chairs, any drawers or cubbies, bookcases & shelves, corners, and by the TV.
Because the living room is so heavily used you'll find everything from unused decor, exercise equipment, marker, crayons, pens, blankets & pillows, items from the bathroom, bedroom closet items like shoes and clothes, unused technology, games & DVD's, food and dishes, papers, mail, and magazines, and toys.
After you've finished the room, look at the contents of the receptacle and place them in piles to decide what you want to do with them.
Don't dawdle! Set a timer for 10-15 minutes of de-cluttering with an added 5-10 for the organizing and re-homing at the end. This may seem fast, but, the idea is to quickly sweep the area so you don't get hung up on one area or get bogged down by a project that will take more time.
Try it and let me know your thoughts in the comments!
Photo: Sarah Dorweiler
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Welcome to your dose of SPACE!
Today we're talking about Purging items in your home or office and GYLIO (Getting Your Life in Order) by bundling your tasks.
"I want to get rid of stuff but I don't know how to separate the items!"
It depends on what you're trying to purge, but a good rule of thumb is a recommendation that comes straight from Marie Kondo: create a trash, keep, recycle, and donate area. As you go through each possession, decide what area it goes in. As Marie says, does it spark joy? For each item ask yourself if you use it, does it still work properly, do you enjoy it? Does it bring value to your life? Are you holding on to it for sentimental reasons? Why? Trust your instincts.
A great way to create these four separate areas is to label boxes, large trash bags, or any other handy receptacle so when you are finished everything is in one spot.
I like to give myself the time to do the actual purging, then allow time to take the trash and recycle items out, and donate pieces to a Goodwill-type store. You will feel so good to have them out of your space; it's a tangible change you'll be able to see and feel.
It's really important to set how much time you want to purge and keep to it. Get rid of distractions and set yourself up so you can concentrate. Know yourself. If you get distracted or tire easily, try this process for 10-20 minutes and see how you do. If this feels good, move on to 30-45 minute intervals, and so on! The longer you practice purging, it can become a soothing experience knowing what and why you have objects in your space.
GYLIO PRACTICES (Get Your Life In Order)
The theory of GYLIO is to set time to attend to your Life Admin. This helps with constant overwhelm and allows the opportunity for downtime that is guilt-free.
Life Admin is essentially all the errands, tasks, and to-do's that add up while you're trying to build a career, raise a family, get an education, etc!
Try sitting down every week to build your to-do list, then give yourself an hour during that week to check items off the list. Grouping your activities is helpful. For example, you can make phone calls, send emails, and balance your checking account from your home. Another week you may want to spend some time running errands like returning purchases, picking up groceries, or dropping off clothes to be laundered.
And make sure to add in self-care and pleasure activities in this exercise as well. One of the benefits of giving yourself this time is to create dedicated space for rest and relaxation.
You can find an article on GYLIO here.
The "Slow Movement" has gained in popularity in some circles as an alternative to our society which has advanced so quickly due to technology, bringing our lives into an unprecedented fast pace. Sometimes we don't feel like we have a moment to slow down. This week, take a moment to pause and reflect on one of your ideas. Churn it over in your mind like a daydream, use a journal, or record yourself talking. Relish in a fews moments to expand on the thought. Then, share it with a friend or in the comments!
As always, I'm here to help you purge that closet or set up a game-plan to GYLIO, task master style! Reach out to me for more information.